I mentioned a couple of posts ago that I had changed my attitude about expecting sex. It was still a pretty new idea to me when I posted it, but I have to say that it has had a dramatic effect on my mental stability. We are in what I would call a “lull”, but really it’s just life. Colds, kids, work… the typical things. It’s not lack of interest, just diminished opportunity. In the past I’m sure I would have lamented this. Poor me. Three weeks with barely any intimacy. But I have to say that I’m doing great. Would I prefer more intimacy? Absolutely! But I no longer expect it, so I’m not disappointed. There has even been a few times where my wife has told me that she wanted some action but due to whatever reason we couldn’t. That probably would have really sent me spiraling out of control before. Now I’m just content to know that what we have is real and sex or no sex doesn’t change that. She is the boss and that makes us both very happy.
That’s not to say that I’m not horny as hell. Because I am. Really. Really. Horny.
Last week she did surprise me a bit. I had gotten up early to do something and she had told me that I could go back to bed for a little nap. I took her up on that offer. A few minutes later she was in bed next to me. I was so close to sleep. Next I felt her leg across my lap and heard a familiar buzz. ”Good for her” I thought as I was drifting off.
“I want you to lick me”.
So much for telling me to take a nap.
No longer tired I went down on her and brought her to an orgasm. She told me I could edge myself and I dared ask the question I’ve been wanting to ask for quite a while now, “will you please edge me”?
At first she seemed a little taken aback, but I’m sure she saw the puppy dog eyes I was giving her. Then she got a wicked look in her own eyes. I was expecting her to lie next to me and half heartedly masturbate me for a few minutes. Instead she straddled my legs. That was a surprise. Then she leaned over and wrapped her lips around my cock for a moment. I assumed it was for lubrication. Then she completely shocked me by giving me a real, honest to goodness blow job. Well, as much of an honest to goodness blow job as one can get in ten to fifteen seconds. That’s how long it took to get me to the edge. I probably could have lasted a few more seconds, but I honestly didn’t know if I’d be able to stop her or myself in time. Hell, I’m probably being generous with thinking it lasted 15 seconds. All I know is that she had a little chuckle at how quickly I got to the edge, “that didn’t take long”. She totally got off on her ability to tease me with her mouth for a brief moment knowing I wouldn’t be allowed to cum. It has been years since she had used her mouth like that and now it is fresh in my mind how amazing it is. And it is fresh in my mind that I will be lucky to feel it again any time soon.
Filed under: chastity, edging, female led relationship, kink, life, mind games, oral, orgasm control, orgasm denial, teasing, wife led marriage
There are times where I could have written that first paragraph. Word for word. Then there are others when I slip back into that poor Thumper mode, though I do have to say those are fewer and fewer recently.
The benefits of really and truly getting to that place where there is no expectation of sex and only a grateful appreciation of when she allows you to pleasure her are remarkable. As you said, ‘mental stability’ increases as does overall satisfaction for both partners. I couldn’t agree more. Lots of stress could have been avoided for us if I had learned that lesson sooner.
I mentally knock on wood whenever I make such grand statements as that. I’m sure there will be a time when I lose it again, but for the time being I’m very happy so I’ll just have to accept being happy, lol.
Yes I too could easily have written that first paragraph word for word. It looks like it’s pretty common.
I may have said or thought what you said, “Would I prefer more intimacy? Absolutely! But I no longer expect it, so I’m not disappointed. ”
Then again, I am and have been in denial.
As for the rest of your post, I can assume that she is the best in oral sex, giving and receiving.
It would take me more than fifteen seconds to get near orgasm, no matter who provoked my tip. It is great that she gives you that. Your getting an orgasm is a great goal, then again, it is not necessarily her goal. But getting there is just as much fun.
I think I got to the edge so quickly more from the psychological aspect than the actual physical stimulation. Much more happened mentally in that brief period than physically.