The List

So, here is the first draft of my official list of chores and expectations from my wife.  Most of it was written by her, but I made a couple of suggestions and chose the days the jobs were to be done.  My wife has already told me that she plans on amending it, but for the time being she felt it was important for me to start a routine. 



  • writing or working on career related business
  • coffee prepped for morning
  • kitchen clean and ready for next meal prep, floor swept
  • all beds made (supervise the children to make theirs)
  • laundry moving through cycle
  • dinner preparations as assigned
  • grocery list up to date
  • special projects as assigned
  • be clean shaved


  • trash and recycling – Wednesday and Sunday
  • cat-box cleaned – Wednesday and Sunday
  • vacuum house – Tuesday and Friday


  • Shower and Bath scrubbed – Saturday    
  • Kitchen mopped – Monday          
  • Kitchen sink bleached – Monday 
  • Sweep office – Thursday   

  I will use the following system to monitor your behavior; it may be adjusted at my discretion:

  • Unacceptable: Performing beneath expectations.
  • Acceptable: Doing what was explicitly demanded but no more.
  • Good: Going beyond what was demanded on at least one occasion.
  • Exceptional: Surprising me with exceptional attention.

 Four days of good behavior are required for release.  An unacceptable day erases a good day while an exceptional day is worth two good days. 


There it is.  Not too bad, I think.  As a matter of fact I received and Exceptional mark for my work yesterday.  My wife was very impressed to see that I had not only completed my daily chores, but that I had indeed gone above and beyond in several areas.  Also, she did not give me an assignment yesterday and was very pleased with the job I chose and how well I completed it.   

Since we were discussing my Exceptional job and the job list I expressed my desire to do more.  I told her that I enjoyed receiving assignments and that it let me know she was actively involved.  I also told her that I understood that she wouldn’t always be able to do it because she may be too busy at work, and the idea is to make life easier for her, not more difficult, so we would have to find a balance.  I told her that I want to be pushed to my limits so we can find out what is too much and what is not enough.  To be honest, I didn’t really deserve an Exceptional mark for yesterdays work because I still sat on my butt for half the day.  Sure, I re-arranged and cleaned out the kitchen cupboards, but I clearly could have done more, and that much work should be expected of me.   

Well, I didn’t tell her that last part because I only now just realised it, but I’ll be sure to tell her tonight. I also told her that I would like to do more for her, as in more directly serve her and more often.  She told me she understood and seemed to make a more concerted effort in asking me to do things for her as the night wore on.  Unfortunately, she has been under the weather the last few days, and we all know how that can dampen the fires. 

On a seperate note:I don’t know about you, but I like the new layout!