Great Friday cont./frustration understood

Last Saturday my wife took the kids to meet up with their friends at an Easter egg hunt.  They were gone most of the morning and afternoon and I was able to get a lot of cleaning done.  When they got home I took a break and we walked to a park and had some more fun.  Later I finished up cleaning as much as I could and waited for our guest to arrive in the early a.m. hours while everyone else was asleep.

The next day was pretty great.  Lot’s of fun family time and great food.  I took the kids to the neighbors who were having a party and the kids got to play some more and I had some fun as well while my wife and her cousin got to catch up on things.

Now, he’s a good guy, most of her family is great, but he’s a bit obnoxious.  I’m sure nothing seemed out of the ordinary to him, but he wasn’t looking at things in the same context as me.  Anyway, as I cleaned up from dinner and my wife put the left-overs away he lay back on the couch declaring that he was going to spend the day watching basketball and drinking beer.  As I’ve said before, I’m not really a “submissive” guy, I just submit to my wife.  So, I was getting a little irritated with his attitude.  When he told my wife to bring him a beer I got really irritated.  I looked at her and could tell she was irritated too, so she talked to him like she talks to our children.

“Use your polite words”, she said to him.  He of course went over the top with it and called her “ma’am” a lot. 

Anyway, despite his bit of obnoxiousness it was good to see him and talk with him and we had a pretty great time.  I did have to get “macho” and start relating tales of my glorious athletic past, etc.  I can’t help it.  I’ve always been that way.  And, to be honest, he seemed to enjoy listening to them, so that was nice.

He left Monday morning and later that day my family and I went for a nice picnic.  My wife told me it was a ruse to be alone with me as the kids played nearby and ignored us.  I had to work that night and she told me how disappointing that was because she wanted me in bed.  That made me consider trying to get out of working, but I knew that wouldn’t be very responsible.

Tuesday she again brought up how much she wanted me, but by the time we went to bed she was too tired.  This frustrated me, but I knew she was tired and had to be up extra early in the morning.

This got me thinking, though.  I realised that I was kind of having a similar reaction that she had about having so many more opportunities for intimacy.  At first it made her feel pressured until she realised that we didn’t have to “do it” just because there was an opportunity.  She accepted that she would be intimate when, where and how she wanted and I would be happy with that.  And I am, for the most part.  But I now see that because there are more opportunities that I can get frustrated from missing those opportunities.  The frustration only lasts a few minutes, but I only realised last night that it was occurring and that the reason I was feeling more frustration was simply because there are more opportunities.

Now, this isn’t a complaint.  I’m glad my wife accepts that it will be up to her.  But, being human I have emotions that I can’t control.  What’s nice is being able to understand the emotions so that they don’t control you.  I think I’ll have an easier time not pouting about my wife going to sleep rather than being intimate now.