Quick arrangement chat

Well, we were able to have a short talk about our arrangement last night.  I started by expressing that it seemed like the arrangement seemed to have, I forget what word I used, but I think something along the lines of mellowed maybe.  Anyway, my wife disagreed.  She said the arrangement is what it is, the problem was that we weren’t very connected due to how busy she had been with work and how busy I’ve been and the kid activities going on and now that our oldest is on summer vacation from school they are staying up later, etc…

In some ways this was a relief to hear, despite the fact we were talking about a complete strain on our relationship.  Her point was it didn’t have anything to do with the arrangement.  All aspects of our relationship have been effected.  

I told her that I wish I had gone out of my way to be more helpful, but honestly felt that I was going through a period of depression.

I also brought up the lack of sex and asked if it was because she was getting all she wanted and that was it, or if it was lack of time or what.  She was a bit surprised to realise we’ve only had sex 7 times this year and said that we needed to work on that as well.  Once again time and stress have taken a toll, but my wife assured me that in no way did she intend to only have sex once a month.  She too would like to be back to at least a couple of times a week.  Whew.

We didn’t talk for very long, but we agreed that we needed to put more effort into our relationship and since our arrangement is a big part of that hopefully we will be back to where we were in no time.


Side note – 

I’ve been wearing my device a lot lately.  I’ve really grown to enjoy the feeling, especially when I get excited and feel how it restrains my erection.  It’s damn sexy.

And for the OC/OD fans I need to make a correction.  I’d previously said that I’d only had 6 orgasms for the year (I think).  I’ve actually had 7, but haven’t had a release for 31 days now with no opportunity until at least 35 days.