So the new cock ring arrived Wednesday. God bless JT’s Stockroom for their speedy service.
When I first tried it on it seemed to fit nearly perfectly, maybe a tad on the loose side, but better too loose than too tight, right? Right? The thing is, I don’t really know. I googled the hell out of it trying many different variations of “how do I know if my cock ring fits right” and pretty much found the exact same description of how to fit a cock ring on every different page I went to. And that description is LACKING!
Look, I measured the damn thing exactly the way all the different sights said and ordered the largest size as it seemed closest to the measurements I took. And it fits and does what it’s supposed to do. I actually can’t imagine getting a size much smaller as it’s already a tricky job finagling yourself into it. I did jumping jacks and made wild thrusts and it stayed on.
OK, job well done. Except.
I went to work last night and decided against wearing the new ring until I’d had more time at home with it on. Instead I wore the leather ring as I usually do. When I got home I eagerly traded the rings out and “plunk”, the chrome ring dropped to the floor.
Hmmm. That’s odd.
I put it back on and walked a few steps and it continued to slip down and fall off again.
I put it on a third time and wondered how it could be so much looser than before. The problem nobody gets into on the “fitting” issue is WHEN to measure. When I measured I was mostly in the “high and tight” position. When I first put the ring on I was mostly in the “high and tight” position. When I tried to put it on at night I was hanging very, very low. So low that I think their may have been at least a .25″ difference in size. I don’t think I could squeeze into a 2″ ring when I’m high and tight, though. This is a bit of a puzzler. Even if they let me return it I want to make sure I get the correct size next time. I could split the difference and go with the 2 1/8″ size. Or, I could just not wear it when it’s not going to be used, but the point is that I like the feeling of wearing it while out and about.
What to do, what to do…
One of the best parts of the new cock ring so far has come through a simple question my wife asked me.
“So, is this going to help you last longer”?
Oooh! That simple question made me feel soooo good and gave me such a rush. She is thinking about her own benefit and slightly providing a tad bit of humiliation (I’m really starting to get into this tiny little humiliations thing). Now, she’s commented to me many times that she would love for me to get a metal cock ring, but I of course wanted it for my own selfish reason of how sexy I think it is. Here she is reminding me that she doesn’t care if I like the feel of it or not, is it going to help me pleasure her (which has been a bit of a problem lately).
Although one of the claims of benefits of cock rings is to delay orgasm, I personally haven’t found it to be true. I’ve been thinking about my wifes comment the last few days (she made it after I ordered it, not after I got it) and I think it’s the result of another one of the many contradictions we seem to find in our idea of the Arrangement. I’ve gotten to the point where I have essentially stopped masturbating. Period. Unless it’s in the context of us together I just don’t do it. No more edging in the shower. No more late night edging when everyone is asleep. The closest I get is the pressure of restrained erections against the device. This was our goal and something my wife actually really bought into from the beginning. I do not touch myself without her consent. Yay! We’ve done that.
Now I have almost no endurance. Hell, while “testing” the new cock ring yesterday I wanted to see how well it did in the erection department so put it on and masturbated for a bit (it was done in the name of product testing!!!) and frankly after I got the full erection and admired the super hot look of a big chrome ring around my stuff and admired the little bit of added girth it gave me I decided to indulge in a few more strokes… and nearly came.
So, yeah, not so much on the helping me last longer.
Before I finally won the battle against masturbation I was actually edging myself multiple times a day, often with the consent of my wife. Last year we were having sex multiple times a week, I was edging in the shower, I was edging after everyone was asleep, my wife was having me edge as she masturbated, in other words, I was giving my cock a HUGE workout. Clearly the answer is the more I edge the more used to the feeling of being close to the edge I get and the longer it takes to get there. I really felt like I was the master of my endurance last year.
Now I get in and a minute later I’m having to stop and I know it’s frustrating my wife as we have sex maybe once every three weeks on average now. When she wants it, she wants it they way she wants it! And that does not involved stopping every minute or having an orgasm before she is sated.
So, clearly the answer is that I need to frustrate myself a LOT more often again. Sure, we won the battle of masturbation, but at what cost? We have a date night tonight so I’ll bring it up with her. Yes, my love, you think it’s hot that I don’t touch myself anymore and kind of get off on it, but isn’t it better when I get you off without getting off on it?
Yay, we haven’t really talked about sex much lately. This will be HOT!
In unrelated news I’m going to be doing some house cleaning around here, just not right now because I, of course, have to do some actual house cleaning first. But next week I’ll start cleaning out all the dead links and adding some new links (sorry for the delayed link love people!).
I’m also going to try to get back into reading everyone’s blogs more regularly again. I did a quick check today and see that I’ve missed out on lots of fun chats (and arguments).
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