Well, it’s been a while between posts again.
Mostly life has just been hectic. My wife and I are making a greater effort to not let it get us down, though. There have been a couple of times where she has stopped and made comments about how rough a week was going to be on both of us and how we should try to not get to upset about it. Basically I think she is just acknowledging that life can be just as hectic for me as for her, and that’s nice.
My partners and I are again working on a project that will take a few months and it’s taking up most of what would be my “free time”, meaning my time I would normally be cleaning the house, etc. Because of this things are slowly (or maybe not so slowly) falling apart around the house. This would usually stress out my wife even more but this time she understands that I am working myself very hard right now and unfortunately sacrifices have to be made. I would rather be spending my time catering to her needs, but if my partners and I can ever get this ongoing project to succeeded it will be a much bigger boon to her than my vacuuming, and she knows that.
On top of this it seems like we haven’t been able to go a week without somebody, or all of us, getting sick. I’m sure you all know how frustrating that can be. When you get illness after illness it not only physically beats you down, it mentally beats you down as well. I start to feel like I just can’t catch a break. At least today I feel like I’m mostly over a sinus infection.
So, knowing all this I have been wondering about the infrequency of sex lately. I know I’ve talked about this plenty of times before, but I would say that it really sets the tone for so many other things in our life, kink related or not. Sex isn’t always just sex. I’m sure part of the feeling of distance between us that my wife felt in December was due to a lack of sex. Not that she “just needed to get laid”, but we were missing the intimate connection between lovers. There is far more to it than that, but that intimate connection is a very fundamental part of sex, and if that is missing (no sex) than I think you feel disconnected.
Of course looking back I think that having more sex also created the desire for more sex in my wife. And wanting more sex generally led to my wife being actively more dominant and I more submissive. I’m not sure that my wife sees this, and perhaps we’ll talk about it, but the times where our WLM has been more exciting have been the times where we were having sex a few times a week as opposed to a few times a month.
Last month we had sex on New Years Day. I was allowed my first orgasm of the year, but having just been allowed an orgasm on Christmas I was again starting to wonder about the orgasm control situation. After that we didn’t have sex for over three weeks. After bringing her to several orgasms she pointed out that it had been a long time since I’d cum. She asked me if I would like to and I took the opportunity to request that she keep me waiting until our anniversary that was coming up. She pointed out that it would be a long time between orgasms and I told her that I thought I could do it. I actually expected her to possibly protest a little, or just tell me that she wanted me to cum, which she has in the past. Instead she seemed almost relieved. Her response was basically, “good, then we are done here”. She rolled over to go to sleep and I left to do some work.
Then it hit me. I was thinking I was asking to be able to wait for essentially six weeks, but I had forgotten one very important thing. We had been talking that night about our anniversary plans and had decided to put off celebrating our anniversary for a few weeks to make it easier on us (thus more enjoyable). If my wife chose to she might be able to keep me chaste for up to 9 weeks. As exciting as that seems in my fantasy world, I was hoping for the closer to six weeks.
Perhaps things are turning around, though, as my wife and I had some kinky fun yesterday. The kids were occupied with a movie and I had just gotten out of the shower. She came in as I was just about to get dressed and started locking doors. I understood her intentions and had to race against time to get my cock ring on. I was barely able to get it on in time as my cock wasted no time getting erect.
She got into bed and I got her toys. As we lay together kissing and cuddling she asked if I would be able to fuck her without cumming. It was a nice bit of teasing on her part and I told her that the pressure from her leg against my cock had me close to the edge already. She then reminded me that she really likes fucking a cock and at this point I was pretty sure that she intended to use me for as long as she could, and that if I came before her it was too bad for me. On the one hand I understand that since this is about her that it is power exchange, but on the other I just really wished she would make me wait.
I wasn’t disappointed. First she took out her mini vibe and started working on her first orgasm. As she did so she rubbed her leg against my erection and seemed to take pleasure in seeing the reactions it got from me. After she came she relaxed for a few minutes then asked if I thought I could give her the fucking she needed. I told her I didn’t know that I could and she asked again, “are you sure” as she reached into the bag of toys to get the dildo. Realizing I had been wrong and my wife was indeed being wicked I saw I was about to lose out on what has been a rare opportunity… fucking my wife. I almost begged at this point, “I think I can last a few minutes. Please…”. My wife paused to consider, the dildo firmly in hand. “Well, OK”, she told me. She then spread her legs and gave me another wicked look that said, “this won’t take long”. Sadly it didn’t. Not that I was watching the clock, but it was right there for me to see and I lasted less than two minutes before I had to stop.
“OK, you’re done”, she teased as she picked the dildo up again.
“May I be allowed to go down on you, please”, I was again near begging.
She allowed me to, but her tone let me know that she was just being nice and doing it for me. What she really wanted was a cock that wasn’t going to cum until she was done with it, and that was in her hand. Knowing this I did my best to please her and was rewarded by her legs locking my head in place as she came again.
At this point I was done. She had her fill of me. Now she could finally get the cock she needed. She spread her legs and pinned my cock underneath on of them so I couldn’t touch it. She looked me in the eyes as she fucked herself with her dildo. It was that amazing look she gives me when she gets off on the power exchange. The look that says, I get to cum and you don’t, and I like it that way. I hadn’t seen that look for a while, and perhaps part of the look she gave me was an, “oh, yeah. Now I remember why we do this”.
As we lay together afterward, her completely relaxed and me shaking with desire, I decided to bring up our anniversary date. After beating around the bush for a while (insert sexual pun here) I finally admitted that when I requested be required to wait until our anniversary for my next orgasm I hadn’t considered that we were putting it off for a few weeks and that I hadn’t really intended to wait that long. She, of course, laughed at my dilemma but was kind. She pointed out that the day of our anniversary was still the same so I wouldn’t have to wait. Then she continued and pointed out that I wasn’t actually guaranteed to be allowed to orgasm that day any way. As a matter of fact we weren’t going to see each other that day and we aren’t likely to have much time the following days. So, she thinks my earliest opportunity will be at seven weeks. She made sure to stress OPPORTUNITY. Nothing is written in stone. She seems to have rediscovered a little bit of her pleasure of power.
I hope she hold on to it for a while.
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