I think my wife and I have recently realized something that should have probably been obvious long ago. This is FUN! Aside from all the other benefits we both get from our arrangement we can really have fun with this.
It seems that after our little lull we have both started having a lot more fun with this than before. Not that we feel like we are playing a game, but my wife seems to be able to joke about things instead of feel like anytime she says something to me that should be “domme-y” it doesn’t really have to be serious. For example, recently we were discussing dinner and she told me the two options and said, “it’s entirely up to you”. Then, barely containing laughter she turned to me and pointed and said, “wait, nothing is ever up to you”! We both had a good laugh as she picked the dinner she wanted.
This could have been played out several different ways, but my wife chose to be playful the way we are about most things. She didn’t choose a serious tone and look down her nose and tell me it’s not up to me, and she didn’t taunt me with it and bring out feelings of humiliation. Those other things would have been nice as well, but making a joke about it was just fun.
Of course jokes aren’t the only reason I now realize this can be fun. It’s also the understanding that it doesn’t have to be serious all the time. I guess this goes along with my confusion about the idea of a “24/7” type discussion that comes up in blogs occasionally. I consider my wife and I to be “24/7” because when she agreed to it she agreed that it would be all the time. That doesn’t mean that something kinky is always going on. During our little lull very little happened at all, but there was always the understanding that we have an arrangement and that it was to be honored at all times.
So, it now seems obvious to me that our arrangement doesn’t have to be serious all the time. It’s whatever we are making it at that moment, and right now my wife seems to just be having fun with different aspects of it, nothing particularly kinky or exciting, but things that usually bring a smile to at least her face, if not both of ours.
My wife also seems to be pushing the boundaries a bit more. I don’t know if this coincides with realizing things don’t have to be serious all the time or not, but she really seems to be a little more open about things right now. I mentioned this to her last night and she didn’t think too much of it. She still felt as if things she may say or do wouldn’t necessarily let people in on what we have going on, but to me she is definitely being more open.
Last Saturday night was a perfect example of this. I got home from work much earlier than expected, just as my wife, kids and mother-in-law were finishing dinner. The kids left the table and my wife and mother-in-law got up and went to watch some TV. By way of greeting from my wife I got, “Hi! You are just in time to clean up from dinner”! As I cleaned she again pointed out to her mother, “Isn’t it great that (my name) comes home from work and cleans up our dinner”?
Her explanation to me was that she was just trying to point out to her mother what an awesome husband I am. But there was a look in her eye that said she didn’t really care if her mom read more into it or not.
While that was the most blatent recent instance it is really the increasing frequency of such instances, especially in front of her mother, that stand out. While any individual statement may leave something to the imagination of the person she is speaking to, many such statements can make people stop and wonder. I think this is really another way she was just having fun with our arrangement.
Thankfully she is also having more fun by having more orgasms. Not only is she taking more advantage of opportunities when she is obviously in the mood, but it appears she is also taking more opportunities to put herself in the mood. And on one occasion just took advantage of an opportunity.
While her mother was visiting we took a short trip to the beach. After going back to the place we had rented for lunch my wife told her mother to keep the kids at the pool and we would prepare lunch. I quickly jumped in the shower to get the sand and salt water off of me and a minute later my wife jumped in with me… errr… jumped me. She took me to the bedroom and told me to get to work. Thankfully she had me go down on her first as I was slow to get an erection with the knowledge that the bedroom door didn’t lock and her mother or the kids could come barging in from the pool with little notice. After bringing her to a couple of orgasms she asked me if I wanted to cum. While my brain screamed “OH MY GOD YES!!!!” my mouth said, “I want whatever you want”. Her response was, “Good, it will be more fun to make you wait”.
Moments like that are so wonderful. They are also often the stuff of fantasy, so as soon as she said it I had a hell of a time controlling myself. I wanted to just start pounding away while the magical words were fresh. My mind reeled in the agony and ecstasy of the moment, getting exactly what you love so much and turns you on so much that you just want to erupt in orgasm. Ahh, I love those moments.
It amazes me to think that we had another one of those moments last night. We watched a little TV as I folded laundry. At the end of the show we were watching my wife told me she was going to bed. I wanted to ask her if I might be allowed to go down on her, but I couldn’t think of the right words, so instead I asked her if I could “help her relax” before bed. I guess she understood my euphemism and told me to get her allergy medicine and a glass of water and take them to her in bed. I got them and entered the room and knelt at the side of the bed (did I mention I’m doing the kneeling thing again as she made it clear to me that she enjoys it?). As she sat up and swallowed the pills she told me that I may use my mouth on her and told me to get her toys. I got the toys and stripped down to just my cock ring and the device.
I slid into bed and made a move to kiss her. She intercepted me and redirected my mouth. Although it was not the first time that I’ve gone down on her while wearing the device it is still a rare enough occurrence as to be another “fantasy” type moment. And it only got better.
After her first orgasm she got her dildo and had me use it while licking her. Finally she’d had enough of me and used her mini vibe and the dildo together while I lay off to the side trying not to whimper in subspace to loudly.
After another orgasm I thought she would be done, but instead took my hand and had me grip the end of the dildo while she held onto my caged cock. The power exchange of the moment put her over the edge as she had a final, enormous orgasm. When she had gathered herself she told me to edge myself six times before bed, but to do it somewhere else as to not disturb her.
This is so much fun!
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